BDSM Chat review
BDSM Chat offers themed rooms where adult visitors talk to one another. The site describes free guest access and gives registered users the option of a profile.
Pick a room or move to direct messages
The room directory groups conversations by topic, and the site describes moving between rooms and private messages. The terms say registration is free and name Yoti as the age-check provider. The public site describes guest entry, and the terms require age verification for room access.
How private messages can be moderated
The privacy policy says moderators and automated safety tools may check room messages and private messages. It says outside service providers may process messages for those checks. iSexyChat also covers private messages in its terms, which go further by allowing the operator to record and reuse them. The terms point to a removal form for content on the site and require written consent or a release for identifiable people in material a visitor uploads.

Anabel’s take
I’d start with a room that has a topic I can talk about in public. Moving to a direct message would change who I’m talking to, so I’d still choose what to share carefully.