FetLife review
FetLife is a free social network for the BDSM, fetish and kink community. On 13 November 2026 it reported 13,246,874 members, 208,453 groups, 7,119,385 writings and 25,223 upcoming events such as munches, classes and play parties. It is funded by optional member support, not ads.
7.2/10Anabel054’s ratingRating notes
FetLife (fetlife.com) calls itself "the Most Popular Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community". It works like a social network: profiles, groups, writings, pictures and an events calendar. On 13 November 2026 the homepage counted 13,246,874 members and 117,225,893 pictures and videos.
What FetLife is good for
The strongest part is local organisation. The homepage listed 25,223 upcoming events, from munches (casual meetings in public places) to classes and play parties, and 208,453 groups. If you are new to kink, groups and events in your city are the safest way in. Joining is free; the site says it is funded by people who "support us for nice to have features".
FetLife safety: what members complain about
FetLife says it works with StopNCII and Take It Down against non-consensual sharing of intimate images. Its Trustpilot score is still low: 1.5 out of 5 from 220 reviews. Recent ones describe predatory behaviour that was not handled after reports, spam e-mails, many inactive accounts and an old login system. They are individual stories, but they fit standard advice: meet at public events first, use a separate e-mail, and never share photos with your face or tattoos until you trust someone.
If you want something smaller or more dating-focused, compare BeMoreKinky, Bondage.com or BDSM Chat. More in BDSM sites and sex dating sites.
Anabel054’s take
FetLife is where kink communities actually organise: local munches, groups and event listings. It is not a porn site and not a dating app with matching. Trustpilot reviews are harsh about safety and moderation, so meet people at public events first and keep your profile details careful.
Ratings & reader feedback
Reader feedback
- 220 user reviews · Checked 2026-11-13
Trustpilot 1.5/5Trustpilot: 1.5/5 from 220 reviews (checked 2026-11-13). Recent reviews (Sept-Nov 2026) complain that reports of predatory behaviour are not handled well, about spam e-mails, inactive accounts and an old login system; a 4-star review calls it "an opportunity" for finding an interest group. These are individual accounts, not verified findings.
